Why do we expect to sow one kind of seed (behaviour, decision), and reap or receive a different result?
That does not work. Give what you would like to receive. We cannot be judgmental and expect understanding. We cannot mistreat others and expect to be treated well. We cannot be lazy and expect to achieve successful accomplishments.
Look in your mirror, do you like and love who you see?
If you do not as yet, do not worry. Start making even the smallest change starting now. Start lying less, help out at home more. Do not steal the credit for others work. The great news is we can start working on an area immediately. You can do for it, go for it!